Does a mother have to be the person who had you in utero? Most of the time this is what we associate mother’s day with. The person who endured the concept of trying to get pregnant, the pregnancy with all the whirls and swirls, and of course the birth. Of course this doesn’t happen for all. There are variations on the whole motherhood journey. I know some people who are mothers and do not have any children. They just give to the world as a mother, a giver, and a true inspirer to other women. I do think you do have to be female to carry the term mother.
Throw a wrench in the story as with us – a Warrior mom. Then you have quite the tale to tell. As a warrior things get sweeter as time goes by. I can’t speak for all of us but for this mom it’s true. Knowing that I’m not going to “break her” and have had that feeling gone for so many years brings joy to me this mother’s day.
How would Anna respond to “Who’s your mother?” Will I know someday? I believe personally in heaven and she will talk to me someday. All those fun thoughts and actions that she has kept silent will come out. I hope she has some fun things to tell me. I also hope she gives me some criticism. Come on, all our kids do! Her hair? Clothing style? Things I left out?
As we celebrate this mother’s day we cherish ourselves and our mothers (for some of us) and our grandmothers for some of us. We keep our ideas of motherhood going as the years go by. We make new goals as we become grandmothers. It’s fun to take your grandchild on trips that you took your kids on. It feels like not too long ago, when it was 20 years or more.
The warrior mom in me is grateful for the passing of time, the passing of guilt, worry, severe sorrow, chronic crying and long drawn out explanations of what “she has.” The thoughts that have no concrete end or no warning of the beginning of them. Now as a Warrior Mom I just let things be as they are. It’s not done overnight, I’ve been doing this for almost 23 years now.
I’m proud of my kids more than anything I have done. I am in awe as I watch all of them. I love seeing them eat still, just as much as when they were in the high chair. I like to see them take on new tasks, build their families and make a life for themselves. I enjoy watching my older two banter with each other and make fun memories together. This is what mothers day is mainly for me, the pride I have that I have beautiful children, even if only one of them is really “mine” anymore. I hope all you reading this give yourself a large amount of kudos for being a mother in whatever way that is for you. Mother’s make the world go round and it’s one hell of a carousel!
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